“Saying no can help reduce resentment that you may feel towards the person who made the request.”
~ Surajit Roy
This book is about a person who is trying to improve their productivity and self growth. The key chapter is where Damon ask the readers to self analyze whether they are people pleaser or not by asking some prominent but important questions. Once we have analyzed that there exists the problem, author takes you on a journey where he gives all the practical tips on how to overcome the habit of saying “Yes”. The bonus part is where he explains how to say no in courteous manner to every aspect of life situations, ranging from relatives to spouse to coworkers.
“Saying no to people is one of the most important skills you can develop. It frees you to pursue your own interests, both personal and professional. To that end, it’ll boost your productivity, improve your relationship, and fill you with a sense of confident calm that may seem alien to you at this moment.” This book is saying that it’s good to be kind and help others, but you shouldn’t do it at the expense of your own well-being. Everyone has a limited amount of time and energy, so we need to be careful about how we use it. Sometimes we have to say no to others in order to take care of ourselves.
Book Details
| Book Title | The Art of Saying No |
| Author | Damon Zahariades |
| Book Genres | Non Fiction |
| Category | Society & Social Sciences |
| My Rating | 4.8 |
About The Author
Amazon bestselling author, Damon Zahariades, provides a step-by-step, strategic guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You’ll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you’ll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority. [Credit: This section taken from – Amazon.Com]
Book Summary
In the book, “The Art of Saying No”, Damon Zahariades provides a step-by-step guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You’ll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you’ll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority. The book is about someone trying to enhance their productivity and personal growth. The key chapter is where Damon asks readers to analyse themselves if they are pleasant people or not by asking a few important but important questions. As this is a book of personal growth, it is assumed that readers will give the honest answer to accept that there is a problem, which must be dealt with.
Book Highlights
The People Pleasing Habit
It’s important to take care of yourself so that you can be your best self and have a good life. Self care is when you do things that are good for you, like brushing your teeth and taking a bath. It’s important to do self care so you can be your best self. Being assertive means being honest about your feelings, your opinions, or even your rights. It does not mean being aggressive, in which someone else may feel threatened or disrespected. Being aggressive may result in feeling like a bully and losing important relationships. Assertiveness is a social skill that relies heavily on effective communication while simultaneously respecting the thoughts and wishes of others. This book is saying that people usually ask for favors because they respect you and think you can help them, not because they want to take advantage of you. It’s important to be kind and gracious when people ask for favors, because you never know when you will need to ask for a favor yourself.
Reasons We Struggle To Say No
Some adults have a hard time saying no because they were taught as children that it was bad to say no to adults. This can make it difficult for them to communicate their preferences. Another reason you may find it difficult to say no is if you doubt yourself. With imposter syndrome, you feel like you are not good enough to do the role that you are in. Because of these feelings, you avoid saying no to others. It can be hard to say no, even when we know we should. We might be afraid of disappointing other people or creating conflict. But sometimes it’s important to stand up for what we believe in.
Strategies For Saying No
The author is talking about how people who are pleasers have a hard time setting boundaries. This is because they don’t want to upset the other person or have them reject them. They would rather just say “yes” and deal with the consequences than say “no” and deal with the other person’s reaction. When you say yes to something even though you really want to say no, you are giving up your power and control. You are also putting the needs of other people before your own. This can be disrespectful to yourself if it stops you from reaching your own goals.
Conclusion
This book is about, how to say no, and how to know when it is the right time to say no. The article says that even if we start to think about when we should say no, we will still find ourselves in situations where saying yes is the better decision. The article says that we should ask ourselves certain questions when we are trying to decide if we should say no or not. The questions are: will say yes, prevent us from focusing on something that’s more important and will say yes make us even more tired or burnt out.
